3 Reasons to Stop Anticipating Your Future
Your future is important. Should you be thinking about it? Of course. Should you be making intentional decisions regarding it? Absolutely. Anticipation definitely serves its purpose; being excited about the things to come in your life is a good thing. You just have to be careful not to let that excitement consume you.
Dwelling on your future can be just as harmful as dwelling on your past – we can all agree that no good ever comes of that, right?
Here is why you should stop anticipating your future… right now:
1.It distracts you from the present:
I’ve always thought the acronym YOLO was kind of dumb…like YOLO was an excuse to make unwise decisions, which for some people, it is. As much as I think that these four letters should never, ever appear on anyone’s t-shirt, it is true that you only live once. So, act like it.
When we spend our time obsessing over our futures, we tend to neglect what amazing things may be happening in the present. If you can’t think of a single thing that makes you smile in this moment, then this should serve as a sign that you need to press “pause”. Allow yourself to appreciate the simple things in life.
2.It makes you worry more:
Recently, while scrolling down my newsfeed, I saw picture of a rocking chair and next to it read: Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere. I’ve been waiting to share this analogy with someone, so, thank you for reading! Anyway, how real is that?
Becoming consumed with the future is the perfect recipe for worry. When you plan every aspect of your future ahead of time, naturally, you freak out when things don’t go according to plan. When things do go your way, you feel pressure to maintain your “perfectly” planned future. You teach yourself that there is no room for error.
Do your part in good decision making, but learn to not take your journey too seriously.
My Dad always taught me to never worry about the things that were out of my control. We can all work hard and do our parts to secure a sweet future, but inevitably, some things are just out of our control. Let’s realize that our future is one of these things.
3.You’re training yourself to never be satisfied, which kills any chance of you being happy
Constantly looking forward to the next big thing in your life can be dangerous, because sometimes that next big thing isn’t happening for weeks, months, or even years (if at all). Don’t spend all of that time being content with your life when you can be happy with it.
Telling yourself that you can’t be happy until you reach certain milestones? Cut it out. Being happy is a choice. It’s easy to be miserable. Challenge yourself to feel good. If you’re ambitious enough to value your future, then you’re strong enough to put on a brave face. Fake it ‘til you make it, if you have to!
What happens after you achieve those goals, anyway? Bliss? Certainly not. Sure, you’ll be in a temporary state of euphoria, but those feelings will fade in due time…probably sooner than you think.
When you’re constantly living in an unsatisfied state, you won’t ever know how to be satisfied. You are conditioning yourself to never know happiness, because it comes from within – not from anything that could ever be achieved in this psychical world.